Extended family visiting

Since Bash was born in mid-November, both my family and Tommy’s family have been around a lot. My family lives nearby so I see them maybe twice a week now. It’s been both a blessing and a huge challenge having extra people around.

Pros:

  • More help! With other people to watch the baby Tommy and I are able to take naps, do chores, or have time to ourselves.
  • Bash gets to meet and bond with his extended family. I grew up with aunts, uncles, cousins, and my Granny right next door. I always had family I could spend time with, and I loved it. Each person offered something different and provided me with new experiences. Because my next door cousins were boys, I was able to play video games which my dad did not get for my sister and I. My Granny taught me how to crochet and I would spend much of my summer watching I Love Lucy with her and eating ice cream cones.

Cons:

  • Less time to bond with my son. With so many visitors, I spent less time with Bash. I felt obligated to let others hold him as long as he seemed agreeable. I had to pump more and breastfeed less so that others could feed him. My only alone time with him was during the middle of the night, when I was extra tired and at my worst. In the daytime, although others were watching him, I found it difficult to nap. I want to be awake during the day like everyone else and interact with other adults.
  • Unwanted advice. More people = more unwanted advice. It’s a part of having family over, but it’s still very annoying.
  • I feel like a prisoner in my own home. I don’t feel comfortable walking around topless or eating what I want when others are over. There is a lot more compromise involved, and frankly as a new sleep-deprived mom, these things really got to me.

Now that the holidays are over I feel more like myself and actually a bit happier. Although I like to be around people, too much socializing wears me out. I am able to take my afternoon nap with Bash again. I really missed that!

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